\u00a0 Dear Abby: I\u2019m 39 and have been married for nine years. Three years into our marriage I got sick and lost a lot of weight. I now turn heads everywhere I go. All except the head I want to turn \u2014 my husband\u2019s. He drives a truck and all he does is talk to and sext larger, unattractive older women. He has gone to counseling and 12-step meetings, and I\u2019ve told him to get out numerous times. Nothing has helped. I\u2019m now getting to the point that I feel I can work again. Is it wrong for me to be making an exit plan for when my son from a previous marriage turns 18? Turns the Wrong Heads \u00a0 Dear Turns: If I told you it was wrong, would you stop doing it and remain in an unhappy marriage? I doubt it. If your husband is attracted to other women and acting on it, you should absolutely prepare yourself for the day you declare your independence. It\u2019s far more sensible than being unprepared. Dear Abby: My brother got married a year ago after dating for less than a year. His wife started calling my parents Mom and Dad from the get-go. I didn\u2019t realize how much it would bother me, but it does and, frankly, I resent her for it. I\u2019m very close to my parents, and I view our bond as sacred. To me, Mom and Dad aren\u2019t names you use lightly, to be cute or as a term of endearment. The relationship is earned and unique. I would never think of calling my husband\u2019s parents Mom and Dad, and I don\u2019t feel that I\u2019m offending them by not doing so. Is there a proper way to discuss this with my brother and sister-in-law without hurting feelings or creating tension? Annoyed Sister-in-Law Dear Annoyed: Calm down and curb the attitude, because if you say anything you will appear to be jealous and petty. What your sister-in-law is doing is very common. Regardless of what she calls your parents, you are still their daughter and she is not. If they didn\u2019t like her calling them Mom and Dad, I\u2019m sure they would let her know they preferred she choose something else. Dear Abby: I have been in a relationship with a really great guy for five years. He is wonderful to my son and treats him as his own. The problem is, I don\u2019t think I am capable of truly being in love with anyone. I care deeply about him \u2014 as much as I am capable of loving. My question is, would it be unfair to him if I agree to marry him knowing he loves me more than I love him? To Marry or Not to Marry \u00a0 Dear T.M. or Not T.M.: I\u2019m not sure many couples love each other equally. More often one loves the other more. If you think you can be a good wife to this man, then marry him. Obviously, you have a high degree of compatibility, or he wouldn\u2019t be considering marriage to you.